Friday, February 9, 2007

That Out of Control Feeling

If you are like me, you may sometimes get the sensation that you are walking around and living your life, but you feel really out of control. You may have been better at working on your goals last week or last month, but somehow, and you are not really sure how or why, you have fallen off track. You may have slipped up on your diet or have not been following your exercise routine as enthusiastically or at all. Maybe your laundry is piling up, or your dishes, when you had been doing so good at keeping everything neat for a while. You want to get back to that feeling that you were starting to live your life right.

I believe one of the reasons you get that feeling that everything is spinning out of control is because, you are starting to lose the self-discipline you had gained. You are out of control! You are starting to let your whims and emotions dictate your behavior again. For example, you are letting the fact that you feel like you might be coming down with a cold convince you to forsake the gym routine. You are letting your immediate desires control your actions.

You may not be sure when you are going to be able to get back on 'the wagon' again. Well this feeling of spiraling out of control comes from too many impulsive decisions in a row. One day you had an appointment after work and you couldn't make it to the gym. Another day you ate lunch too late and thought you might get sick to your stomach if you did stomach crunches after work. You let yourself think if you don't accomplish your goal at the set time you shouldn't bother doing it at all. Soon it will be a week since you have been at the gym. Your unwillingness to be flexible prevents you from achieving your goals. If you were thinking like a winner, you might go home for an hour and let your late lunch digest and then go to the gym. So what if you are at the gym late? Don't let your schedule and unexpected events prevent you from meeting your goals!

Getting that sense of control back starts with one right decision. Then make another right decision, and soon you will be back to taking all those little baby steps and meeting your standards you set for yourself. Remember, don't let a bad mood or an unexpected stress or crisis keep you from meeting your obligations to yourself (eating healthy, going to the gym, cutting back on smoking). Those habits you are trying to acquire will give you more stability in your life, not less.



surjit said...

A good write up.My good wishes.

Dave said...

Thanks, hopefully the pep talk I desperately need.

Casondra said...

Well said.

Anonymous said...

I love this blog! This describes exactly how I feel and has given me motivation. Please keep writing! :)